the five love lessons.

From then, it's been a couple of "flings".  I hate to call it that, but honestly, I don't have a better word for it.  I've dated several men who I had no business giving my time or energy to.  Men who didn't even come close to my standards.  Men who I saw potential in, but didn't even give a fuck to see the potential in themselves.  It was such a waste, because I gained nothing from them.  They all left me jaded & disheartened.  Even now I look back like, B what in the entire fuck were you thinking?


Love lesson number four?  A person's potential really ain't shit.  Majority of the time it's not their potential you're seeing, it's a reflection of the partner you honestly wish you had.

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the committed bachelor.

I guess I'm coming to terms with the fact that this generation isn't here for commitment.  They aren't here for the dating, the courting, the getting to know you phase.  They aren't here for the let's wait to have sex, let's talk about life, question each other about our childhood, & stay up all night just to talk. Spend the night with each other with absolutely no intentions on having sex, just to get to know one another, because we all know that once the sun goes down that's when people tend to spill their hearts.  This generation isn't here for deep talks & picking each other's brains. 

They're here for the sex, the fucking, the pussy chase.

I want to stay up all night, sit on the kitchen counter, and talk to my boo about the universe.  I want to travel with my boo, go all around the world while getting to know each other on a whole other level.  People seem to think that intimacy stops short of penetration & that's the damn problem.

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a brown skin hoe.

I see it all the time on Facebook, between the THOT this & hoe that, it's ridiculous.  Why are we punishing women for what men do?  & the men who are out here slut shaming women, are the same men who have multiple babies by multiple women.  Why aren't we slut shaming them?  & you women are out here trying to king these idiots?  What the hell is wrong with you?   

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